Paul’s prayer for the Thessalonians was:
…that he may establish your hearts blameless in holiness before our God and Father at the coming of our Lord Jesus with all his saints.
1 Thessalonians 3:13
Notice carefully: Paul did not simply pray that they might be established blameless, but that their hearts might be established blameless. The distinction matters.
The heart is where holiness begins – or where sin festers. As Jesus taught:
Out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.
Matthew 15:19
Outward morality without an inward holy heart is hollow. Jesus rebuked the Pharisees for this very problem:
Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence… You are like whitewashed tombs, which outwardly appear beautiful, but within and full of dead people’s bones and all uncleanness.” – Matthew 23:25-28
It is possible to appear righteous while the heart is rotten. True holiness must go deeper.
How Are Hearts Established in Holiness?
Paul gives the answer just one verse earlier:
May the Lord make you increase and abound in love for one another and for all, as we do for you, so that he may establish your hearts blameless in holiness before our God and Father.
1 Thessalonians 3:12-13
The hope of a blameless heart at Christ’s coming (v. 13) is directly tied to growth in love (v. 12). Love is not optional – it is the very means by which the heart is made holy.
For Paul, love was the defining mark of Christianity. Love toward one another and toward all is how our hearts are strengthened in holiness. Growth in love is growth in holiness. Without love, we cannot expect to stand before God with a blameless heart at Christ’s return.
Christian love is thus inseparable from hope. When love increases, hope and certainty for the future increases. Without love, the certainty of our hope dries up.
What Kind of Love?
Here we must be clear: when Paul speaks of “love” he does not mean mere affection. In our day the word “love” is used flippantly to justify almost anything. “If two people love each other, how could it be wrong?” That reasoning is then used to defend fornication, adultery, and homosexuality. Yet in Paul’s prayer, love is inseparably tied to holiness.
True love does not lead into sin; it leads out of it. To drag someone deeper into sexual immorality is not to love them but to despise them. Real love seeks another’s eternal good, not their temporary pleasure. Affection that destroys the soul is not love at all, but a worthless counterfeit.
And this principle extends beyond sexual sin. If our desire to be friendly excuses sinful social activities, that is not true friendship. If our desire to be kind silences our call to righteousness, our “kindness” becomes cruelty. Love that is severed from holiness is not the kind of love Paul prayed for.
Paul’s Example of Holy Love
When Paul exhorts the Thessalonians to “increase and abound in love for one another and for all,” he adds, “as we do for you.” The kind of love Paul expected was the love he had modeled:
- Renouncing his right to make authoritative demands (1 Thess. 2:6)
- Laboring night and day for their sake (2:9)
- Sharing not only the gospel but his very life (2:8)
- Caring for them tenderly like a nursing mother cares for her children (2:7)
This is not the hollow “love” the world celebrates. It is a cross-shaped, self-denying love – love that gives itself wholly for another’s eternal good. That is the kind of love that establishes a heart in holiness.
Examining the Heart
So take some time and inspect your heart. It is good to examine your external duties – your doctrine, morality, speech, church attendance, and conduct at home. But don’t neglect the heart.
- Does your external life genuinely flow from a blameless heart, or is it an act?
- Are there hidden heart problems that need addressing?
- Can it truly be said that you love God, love the church, and love all those you interact with?
- If you’re really seeking the eternal good of others, do your actions reflect it?
If you recognize the need for your hearts to be further established in holiness, how is it strengthened? By increasing in love – the kind of love Christ displayed on the cross. A love that bears burdens, sacrifices self, and seeks not temporary happiness but eternal joy for others.
At Christ’s coming, it will not be the appearance of righteousness that matters, but whether our hearts have been established blameless in holiness.
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
Proverbs 4:23


